parting thoughts to 2009

Freedom is for honest people. No man who is not himself honest can be free – he is his own trap. - unknown

People think that a liar gains a victory over his victim. What I've learned is that a lie is an act of self-abdication, because one surrenders one's reality to the person to whom one lies, making that person one's master, condemning oneself from then on to faking the sort of reality that person's view requires to be faked. And if one gains the immediate purpose of the lie - the price one pays is the destruction of that which was intended to serve. The man who lies to the world, is the world's slave from then on. - Ayn Rand (1905 - 1982)

Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment, full effort is full victory. - Gandhi (1869 - 1948)


The path to the truth is found in the spaces between the lies. - Rain Bojangles

Everything secret degenerates, even the administration of justice; nothing is safe that does not show how it can bear discussion and publicity. - Lord Acton

No good ending can be expected in the absence of the right beginning. It is too late. - I Ching

Self-conceit may lead to self-destruction. - Aesop

Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end. - Seneca

When small men begin to cast big shadows it means the sun is about to set. - Lyn Yutang

There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning. - Louis L'Amour

Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible. - St. Francis of Assisi

What the caterpillar calls the end the rest of the world calls a butterfly. - Lao Tzu



Wishing you all the best for 2010 - the hope and promise of a new year.

watch this space

Wow - three months without a post.

I'd love to say that it's because nothing interesting has happened to post about. But that would be a lie.

For anyone reading this who does not already know this news - Marc and I are separating. It's been a tortuous couple of months. There is so much to say, and yet I haven't been able to say it here.

If I try to summarize it - be succint, to the point - we want different things. I want a family, a home life, to find what I want to do for the rest of my life - balance, peace. Marc wants a big career. These things are not mutually compatible anymore. It has taken me a long time to hear him, to hear what he is saying - that he can't do it anymore.

I just read a brilliant statement from someone over at the Women's Colony from someone who is going through something much more difficult than I am:

THE ONLY WAY OUT IS THROUGH.

I'm on my way through. It's not a fun trip, the scenery sucks to be honest, but there is something on the other side of this. And I will be okay. As will my precious babies. They have an awesome mother you know (modest aren't I?).

So from me and mine to you - Happy Holidays. May you have wonderful times with your families and all the best for 2010. A new year, new opportunities.

I think On being European-ey has run it's course. I will be back - not sure where or when, but watch this space in January. I should be plenty stressed getting ready to move (3rd time in 2.5 years! Oi Vey!!) and I am sure I'll have something to say.

T
xox